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Self Awareness

Taking Off Our Masks — Being Your True Self

In Latin, persona originally meant a mask worn by actors to indicate the role they played. Carl Jung used the term to represent the ‘I’ that one presents to society. It is also the ‘I’ that society expects us to show. Like the theatrical mask, the persona gives an indication of what the person/character is like. It helps define […]

The Lasting Effects of Trauma & Childhood Adversity

Even though we might believe that we had a ‘normal’ childhood, most children experience some form of ‘adverse childhood experiences’ (aka ACE’s). Whether it was emotionally unavailable or controlling (e.g., everything had to be ‘fine’) parents, a chaotic household (due to addiction, mental illness, depression, anxiety, domestic violence, or divorce), neglect or abuse, children are […]

Towards Inner Peace

Most of us seek an increased sense of calmness, serenity and inner peace.  We would like less chaos, stress and conflict with people, situations and our selves.  At times we may feel restless, irritable and bothered by something we may not actually be able to name. What is this internal conflict about? This inner struggle […]

The Art of Giving

It’s the time of year when charities and agencies are asking the community for money, toys and other needed items. We are being asked to be generous. Generosity is freely sharing what you have with others without expectation of reward or return. The giving can take many forms: money, possessions, time, attention, aid, encouragement, emotional […]

Changing Habits: Urge Control

It’s the time of year where we may be trying to change habits. For more compulsive (or addictive) behaviours, we cannot simply stop or will-power them away, as this leaves a psychological void which often drives us back to the exact behaviour we wanted to avoid. Eating sweet/carb foods, drinking alcohol, shopping, or other feel-good (albeit undesired) behaviours […]

Words Do Mean a Lot

An old Chinese proverb stated, “The beginning of wisdom is to call things by their right names.” There are two meanings associated with words – denotation and connotation. Denotation is the literal meaning of words while connotation represents the various social, cultural or emotional associations with words. For example, families that do not consist of […]

How is Your Self-Care?

What comes to mind when you hear the term ‘self-care’? Perhaps you may think, “I don’t have time” or “I do enough already.” You may think that self-care is being selfish or feel guilty about taking self-care. Self-care is defined as any purposeful action you do to take care of your mental, physical, emotional, spiritual […]

Our Sense of Control

As discussed previously, worry, the cognitive side of anxiety, occurs in the higher brain (prefrontal cortex). Thus, it is important to ‘stop-thought’ the brain from worrying about something right from the start, especially if the something is out of our control. It is the mind that tells us that we do or should have control […]

Learning from Our Projections

You may often be fascinated by finding images seen in the shapes and textures of clouds. Is that the profile of Gandhi or a rabbit? The well-known Rorschach inkblot psychological test works in this manner. How do you get from that cluster of clouds or blob of ink to a distinct image? When unrecognizable images […]

Spring Renewal

The Christian term Easter is taken from the pagan Germanic fertility goddess Eostere who had a festival on the Spring Equinox. Her ritual animal was the hare and she is associated with the full moon and eggs. As much as we associate eggs with fertility, the Easter egg is a symbol of resurrection and new […]

Diane Hancox, MA, CCC provides counselling services to Parksville, Qualicum Beach, Nanaimo and Vancouver Island.