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What Lurks in Your Shadow?

We are born whole, with all the pairs of human traits such as greed and generosity, productivity and idleness, and with the capacity to feel the range of emotions, from grief to joy. However, in order to be accepted and have our basic childhood needs met we learned very early which qualities were valued and […]

The Many Sides of Forgiveness

We are familiar with poet Alexander Pope’s saying, “To err is human; to forgive, divine,” yet there are differing views on the exact role of forgiveness. Forgiveness is achievable; however, it takes time – months and even years. The process of forgiveness comprises six common elements. First, there is an injury or violation with subsequent […]

The Archetypal Father

Archetypes are unconscious universal forms and ideas that take on meaning within a certain culture. The Father is one of the main psychological archetypes. Images of piercing and penetration such as a phallus, knife, spear, arrow and ray all relate to Father. The sun and rain symbolically represent the masculine principle of the fertilizing forces […]

Finding Your Own Path – Individuation

Two roads diverged in a wood, and I I took the one less traveled by, And that has made all the difference. These lines from Robert Frost’s poem, ‘The Road Not Taken,’ suggest that there are two roads in life – a personal, individual and less travelled one and a collective, popular one where most […]

Kairos – the time is now

The ancient Greeks had two terms for time – ‘chronos’ and ‘kairos.’ Chronos refers to the human-made, measurable and predicable chronological or sequential time. It is associated with clocks and calendars. Kairos, on the other hand, means the ‘right or opportune moment’ – a moment of undefined time in which something special happens. It is […]

Introverts & Extraverts – Which Way Does Your Energy Flow?

The words introvert and extravert have become part of everyday speech, often confused with ideas like shyness and sociability. However, according to Jung, extraversion and introversion refer to the direction of psychic energy. If a person’s energy usually flows outwards, he or she is an extravert. If the energy normally flows inwards, the person is […]

The Importance of Feeling Our Feelings

Most people have difficulty experiencing the full range of emotions. We may have been raised in a family where certain feelings were not allowed to be expressed or one in which everything had to be “fine.” We may have been overwhelmed, even traumatized by intense emotions. In all cases, discomfort arises when we are exposed […]

The Wisdom of Intuition

Call them hunches, gut reactions, intuition or felt-senses – they all give us unique insights into situations. The word intuition is derived from the Latin word ‘intueri,’ which means “to look within.” According to Mona Lisa Schulz, author of “Awakening Intuition,” intuition “occurs when we directly perceive facts outside the range of the usual five […]

Loneliness – How do you handle being alone?

Valentine’s Day, whether spent with a partner or by ourselves, often evokes feelings of loneliness. Additionally, we may have been disappointed by unmet expectations from our partner.  Loneliness typically comes from a sense of discontent with our social relationships. This social loneliness is often relieved when we reconnect with others, greet people on a walk, call […]

The Myth of Romantic Love

We have no doubt felt the euphoria of ‘falling in love.’ We meet someone who accepts us and offers the possibility of physical connection. We are instantaneously whisked away to the land of romance. We may soon find ourselves obsessing about the person, fantasizing about future scenarios and feeling a new sense of purpose and […]

Diane Hancox, MA, CCC provides counselling services to Parksville, Qualicum Beach, Nanaimo and Vancouver Island.